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My Prince Albert Piercing Experience, Part Four

This is a continuation of my recounting of events in October 2015.

Part Four

The Journey

We had driven almost an hour to get to the shop so it was going to be a long drive home. I gingerly got into the driver’s seat and everything seemed ok. No pain, no pinching, just the odd sensation of it being present. We had plans to meet GC’s parents for dinner but had enough time to stop back at the house for a bit, so we were on our way.

During the drive, we chatted about getting the Lori’s device and we talked about what really long-term lock-ups might be like, for both of us. I told GC that I had heard stories of guys having a Lori on for years without having it removed a single time. I’m not sure how true those stories are, but we talked about what it would be like to have a device that never had to come off and could conceivably remain locked indefinitely. We’ve had the conversation before but now that I was pierced our talk just seemed to have a different tone or feeling. We weren’t talking about some unknown distant future. We were talking about something that would be, hopefully, a few months down the road.

Although it’s come up before and we’ve discussed it, I reiterated my desire to be as orgasm-less as possible. I told her my dream of our dynamic being just like it is now but simply removing my orgasms from the equation. It’s still hard for her to visualize or wrap her head around but I did my best to articulate what I was thinking and feeling.

I tried to describe what it might be like. I told her how right now, to her, sex is about mutual satisfaction and the idea of initiating sex without us finishing together is just alien. She agreed. I then asked her to think of the same scene, with all the same interactions, but in the end, I don’t orgasm. She kind of understood, but for her, ‘orgasm denial’ is so enmeshed in her mind with ‘super kinky sex with bondage and strap-ons and paddles, butt plugs, and dildoes, oh my’ that she can’t envision ‘orgasm denial’ alone. So what happens is that when she tries to think about orgasm denial on its own, she can’t. She just gets overwhelmed with all the other things she associates with it and as a result, has never truly tried to make it a part of our relationship.

This isn’t a complaint. We’re young and happy together. Life is a journey and you learn along the way. My ideas about our sex life are mine, and her ideas about our sex life are hers, but our sex life is ours. So the challenge is for us to communicate our ideas effectively and learn how to incorporate our individual ideas into that which we share. It takes time and there’s a reason the common phrase is ‘building a life together’ and not just ‘having a life together.’ It takes effort, time, and vision to build something. We try to make sure our visions are the same and orgasm denial is a vision of mine that she just hasn’t been able to see yet.

But she wants to and now that we’re (hopefully) removing the variable of a device with significant limitations that get in the way, we’re hopeful that we can concentrate on the other variables more effectively. You can only take on so much at one time and orgasm denial so far has been too challenging to take on for one reason or another. Our hope is that the piercing, and the new device, will remove one of those reasons.

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